1 On 1 Support with Lucy Bailey
Life is for livingStart Shaping The Best You Today
Looking After You Matters
Do you spend too much time looking after and thinking about everyone else?
Mental fitness
Building mental fitness in a thoughtful and intentional way means you are more prepared for the unexpected difficulties, and much more likely to recognise opportunities as they arise.
Human connections
The people around us really matter. Do you find yourself regularly taking the blame for others. Staying quiet to keep the peace. Say you are ok when really you are not?
Do something today that will stay with you beyond today
Fed up of going around in circles, making the same mistakes? Want to make a change, but can’t seem to find a way?
I can help you building your mental muscle and discover the things that are preventing you from being the best version of yourself. I can help you be better prepared for the unexpected difficulties, and much more likely to fully recognise opportunities as they arise.
Some ideas to get you started
Be brave
Staying within our comfort zone means we know what to expect. We feel safe and secure. Life is predictable. Being brave, stretching ourselves beyond our comfort zone means we grow. The more regularly we step outside of our usual routines and push our boundaries, the more we get used to disruption and the easier it becomes to respond when things happen unexpectedly.
Just 'be'
‘Being’ is simply allowing things to be as they are, not judging, fully in the moment, relaxed, calm and present. It’s about acceptance and comfort. It’s not trying to fix or solve anything. It’s not trying to reach a goal and it’s not about being right or wrong. Sometimes the pressure to be active, to be doing stuff means we don’t truly value ‘being’. We think it’s a waste of time, that it’s being lazy or boring. Yet giving ourselves permission to just ‘be’ gives us a sense of control.
Notice the good stuff
Paying attention to the positive things around us and what we can be grateful for helps us avoid the negativity bias. Overtime we develop our muscle for noticing the good in the world. People who build the muscle, experience more positive emotion, have better physical health, they live longer, are better at problem solving, have healthier relationships and are more resilient to setbacks.
Try a resilience quiz
See how much you understand about what it means to be resilient
I am resilient if ...
A: I have high standards and always live up to them
B: I don’t need other people
C: I make mistakes. I am good enough not perfect. I choose optimism
D: I keep going no matter what
Having self-efficacy means ...
A: I believe I can do anything I put my mind to
B: I believe that I can be effective and my beliefs are wedded to reality
C: I believe I can solve everything on my own
D: I believe I never make mistakes
Self regulation means
A: I never experience negative emotions
B: I don’t let my emotins show, I keep them inside
C: I focus on short term wins
D: I use skills and strategies to harness positive and negative emotions
My Approach
I believe that every single person has strengths and qualities they have not yet had the chance to explore. Unlocking your potential has to start from within, but it isn’t about counselling or therapy. I use teachings from positive psychology to unlock the best you. My approach does feel challenging, but in an empowering, strengths-based way. You know yourself better than anyone, and I will guide you in a way that is practical useful, down to earth and works in the real world.
How It Works
Schedule a Free 1:1
Here we can explore together wnat you want to acheive, by when and to what end. This will allow me to design a schedule that works, really works for you.
Agree the plan
I will provide you with a detailed plan so you know what to expect each session. I will set out a suggested timescale, how many sessions, how often and show you what you can expect to achieve.
There is no obligation at this stage.
Bring out the best you
You will have a set of practical tools that you can use today, tomorrow and beyond.
You will be equipped to problem solve effectively, less likely to ruminate the small stuff, more optimistic and mentally agile, better prepared for setbacks and primed to notice opportunties.